I have a friend that I’ve known almost my entire life. But I’m beginning to think that the only reason we are still friends is because we’ve been friends for so long. Once we had a lot in common. We shared interests and dreams and goals. We wanted roughly the same things out of life. We were always together and we knew everything about each other.
Now, I read her blog and her Tweets and her Facebook updates and it’s like I’m reading about a stranger. Our lives have taken different paths and we no longer have anything in common. We no longer share the same dreams and goals. We don’t even really have anything to talk about. On the rare occassions that I see her, I feel awkward and uncomforable. We used to be able to sit and talk for hours…and now it’s a struggle to make it through a lunch.
I’ve certainly had friendships end in the past, but there was always a reason for it…a fight or something that happened…and I could point to a specific moment and say “That is when our friendship ended”. But in this case…there isn’t a specific thing…no moment or event…that led to the undoing of our relationship. We’ve simply grown apart…we are no longer the same people.
I imagine that our friendship could survive if we both make an effort to maintain it…but I’m not sure I want to continue making that effort. That sounds really bad…but it’s the truth. Being friends with this woman is a lot of work and I don’t think I get enough out of the friendship to spend the time. And the truth is…I don’t think she cares one way or another. She’s filled her life with other things and I don’t think our friendship is very important to her.
It feels strange to make a decision to just let a friendship slip away…to not fight to maintain it…especially after you’ve known someone for decades. I miss the girls we once were and the closeness we shared…but I know this is the right decision for me. It just makes me a little sad.
This was my 5 minute Stream of Consciousness Sunday post. It’s five minutes of your time and a brain dump. Want to try it? Here are the rules…
1. Set a timer and write for 5 minutes only.
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