Beginning again…

I am not a fan of New Year’s Resolutions.  I feel like I always aim to high, set myself up for failure and then get completely discouraged when I can’t meet my ridiculously high goals.  In the end, instead of making things better, resolutions always make me feel worse.  So many years ago, I simply stopped making them.

This year, however, is different.  Starting a new decade of life has made me stop and think about where I am and where I want to go.  While things are certainly ok, I’m not where I want to be.  So last week, during a few quiet minutes, I started to think about where I want my life to be and the steps I have to take to get there.  I made a list of somewhat vague things that I needed to do…

  1. Get healthy – I hate doctors and dentists and all things medical so I’ve been avoiding it all.  Except, I’m old now and things are starting to fall apart.  This is not the time for me to ignore the fact that I am six months overdue for a routine exam and nine months overdue for a teeth cleaning.  Also…I can no longer read menus in darkened restaurants and sometimes I can’t read what’s on the bedroom TV at night.  A trip to the eye doctor is overdue as well.  So I resolved to take better care of my health.
  2. Take better care of myself in general – I was lucky enough to inherit my grandmother’s smooth, wrinkle-free skin, but lately it hasn’t looked so great.  It’s dry and there are some new creases popping up.  Apparently, my ten year old skin regimen is no longer doing the job.  And it’s finally time to admit that I can’t go 8 weeks between hair colorings anymore…at least, not without a big white stripe down my head.  It’s time to start treating my body like it’s 40 and start doing more maintenance.  I’ve already got an appointment for a facial.
  3. Organize the house – we have so much stuff.  Too much.  It’s starting to make me crazy.  We don’t need this much crap and the stuff we do need has to be easy to find an accessible.  So I have started reading the Marie Kondo book and I have started purging.  I’ve only done the closet so far, but the resolution is to do the whole house.
  4. Get my finances back on track – you know that story about the shoemaker who has holes in his shoes because he’s so busy fixing everyone else’s?  Yeah, that’s me.  I loathe updating my Quicken accounts.  After working on that kind of thing all day, I have zero interest in sitting down to do more of it at night.  I used to be ok about it, but I’ve let it slide.  I’ve also started spending more and saving less, which is completely contrary to all the advice I give my clients every day.  It is time to get the financial house in order and get back on a budget.
  5. Finish my 101 list – my first attempt to tackle the 101 list was only about half successful.  I’ve got about 16 months left on this new list and while I don’t think I’m going to be able to finish everything due to budget and logistics, I want to get close.  So I need a plan to finish.
  6. Start a new business – I love my job and have no plans to quit, but for a while now I’ve thought it would be nice to have a side project.  Just a little something I can use as a creative outlet and that will provide enough funds to support itself.  More on this one later.
  7. Have more Me-time – I’m bad at this…doing things to make myself happy.  I’m much better at worrying about everyone else.  But my friendships are often neglected…as is my sanity.  So I’m resolving to make time for myself to do what is important to me.

That was my initial list, but some of it is pretty vague and I knew I’d have to be a little more specific if I wanted to actually accomplish these things.  The next day, I got more specific.  I sat down with a notebook and I made an action plan.  I broke each of the resolutions down into mini goals and then further into steps that I’d need to complete.  After that, I bought a planner and made a schedule (more on that later too).  I also decided not to start my plan on Jan 1…because that was too much pressure.  I decided to start today.  So far, so good.  I’ve done almost everything on the list for today and it’s only 2:40.

Stay tuned for updates as I accomplish my goals.  At least, I hope.

If you’ve made resolutions of your own, I wish you luck.  May you stick with it and have the best 2016 yet!