Things to remember…

Mercury has been in retrograde and it was the Ides of March and those two things combined last week to kick my ass.  If it could have gone wrong, it did.  It was a mess of stress and frustration and by Friday night I was burned out.  I tried to follow my new “no stress” rules.  I did the best I could with the circumstances I had and I tried to make jokes to keep things light because if I wasn’t laughing, I would have been crying.  I’m not going to lie…it sucked.  But it wasn’t as bad as it could have been because of the rules. 

Over the weekend, I was reading something and it inspired me to make a new list.  A list of things to remember and tell myself everyday.  I think remembering these things will help me to stick to my rules. 

I wanted to share it because I think these things are important for everyone to remember…

I can do this…I got overwhelmed with something at work recently and I started to panic.  I wanted to just throw my hands up and be done with it, but that wasn’t an option.  So I kept telling myself “I can do this” and eventually I figured it out.  Now I remind myself ever day that I can do this…whatever “this” happens to be.

I am going to make this work…Lately, the universe has seen fit to throw me a few curve balls.  It’s been a little overwhelming, but I’m determined to make things work out no matter what the universe throws my way.

I have to be patient and satisfied with one small step and trust the process…This one is hard for me.  I’m not really the patient type.  The other day, I was doing something and J walked in and saw what I was doing.  He said to me “Whoa…slow down…you are trying too hard.  You can’t force it.  Just slow down and go one step at a time.”  He was right.  I was about to force something and break it (and I’d already cut myself) because it was taking far too long for my liking.  I have to remind myself that I can’t always have the instant gratification I want.  Sometimes I have to follow the steps one at a time and trust the process. 

What other people think of me is none of my business…I don’t like people to hold a bad opinion of me or be mad at me…even people I don’t really care for or am mad at.  I know it’s stupid.  There is a little bit of drama going on at the moment and someone I know is angry at me.  I was relating the story to J, who said “Yeah…I wouldn’t really lose any sleep over that.  Why do you care what she thinks?”  And it’s true…I shouldn’t lose sleep over it.  This person is going to think what she wants to think, no matter what I do.  So I’m no longer going to worry about it.  It’s her business…not mine. 

I like myself just the way I am…This has been a long time coming.  I’ve always wanted to change certain things about myself and I’ve often tried to be a different person to please the people around me.  But I’m over it.  I am who I am and, for the most part, I think I’m a good person.  I’m done changing to please others.  I like who I am. 

Life is unfolding exactly the way it’s supposed to…I always say “everything happens for a reason”, but I don’t always like to accept that.  When bad things happen, I often fight against them.  But I really do believe that everything happens for a reason and that there is a plan for all of us.  We just have to believe that everything will be ok and somehow, it will. 

Everything gets better with practice…When I’m not good at something the first time, I tend to not want to do it again.  Because I’m impatient and a control freak, I like to do things well or not at all.  I don’t want to keep practicing and try to get better.  So I keep reminding myself of the turkey.  When J and I first met, I made the world’s worst turkey.  It was dry and had no flavor.  But J really likes turkey, so I’ve been practicing for 12 years and now I make the best turkey.  It’s juicy and tender and I’ve even perfected making gravy from the drippings.  With a little practice, anything is possible.

This, too, shall pass…It always does.  No matter how bad things are, they always get better.  I really believe that’s true. 

Let it be…The control freak in me has trouble with this one.  But with age has come the acceptance that I can’t fix everything for everyone.  I can’t always make things better.  Sometimes the best thing is to just let it be.  It will work itself out eventually.  Also…Let It Be is, by far, the best Beatles song.





  1. These are very good rules, but they seem so hard when you’re in the moment. Hopefully, with the help of these rules, those moments will be easier to get through.
    One more that I would like to add to your list is:
    “You should give yourself more credit”
    Chin up, Love

  2. These are all great rules and reminders.

    I’m telling you the seasons need to make up their minds because I was on CLOUD 9 this past weekend with 74 degree temps and sunshine. This week, I’m sick, I feel horrible AND the weather is crap. It’s totally effecting my ability to process being pissed off or unhappy!

  3. I needed this today. I’m having a DAY. Thank you! :)

  4. Love this, Shan. You are on the right path. Not only are these wonderful daily affirmations, but they are wonderful reminders for us all to slow down and soak up life’s better moments. We can’t control everything that happens, but how we respond to them is within reach.

    Beautifully said :)

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