In the boudoir…

A few months ago, I wrote this.  I had just done a boudoir photo shoot and I was feeling awesome and sexy and beautiful.

Then I got the pictures back and they were…bad.  So bad that I didn’t even want to show them to anyone.  Ultimately, I showed them to J, who told me I looked great…becauase it’s his job to lie to me in these kinds of situations.  I also showed them to another friend who I knew would give me an honest opinion.  That opinion was that I appeared to be in some sort of pain…possibly of the gastrointestinal variety.

I don’t think the photographer had much experience with boudoir shoots and she didn’t know much more than I did about how I should pose or what would look good.  She was a portrait photographer and that came through in the photos.  Any shots where I wasn’t sitting on a stool and looking at her directly were awful.  They were badly lit and there were shadows and the angles were awful.  The poses were all wrong and the whole thing was just…bad.

Looking at the finished pictures, I felt very defeated.  I decided that I wasn’t sexy or beautiful and that I’d been fooling myself the day of the shoot.

I was ready to give up on the whole idea and I didn’t really ever think I’d get in front of a camera again…ever…even with my clothes on!

A few months later, I got a Groupon from a different photographer…this one specializing in this kind of photography.  I went to her website and checked out her portfolio…and it was awesome.  Really awesome.  And the deal was great so I decided to try again.  I couldn’t have felt worse about myself after the first shoot…so the worst outcome was that I’d waste $100 and a few hours of my time.

I met with the photographer for a consultation and I knew right away that this was going to be a totally different experience.  She showed me more examples of her work and I knew she’d do a great job.  She gave me some suggestions of what to wear and what to bring with me and we talked a bit about how I wanted the photos to look.

The day of the shoot arrived and I was nervous, but I knew I was in good hands.  Julia, the photographer, warned me that it wouldn’t be easy and I’d be really tired at the end…but it would be worth it.  Then she put on some music and showed me exactly how to pose and we went to work.

She was right…after two hours of posing, I was wiped out…and I was sore for three days after.  It turns out that posing and trying to be sexy is not something that feels natural…for me anyway.  At times, I felt like a contortionist.  But it was all worth it…because this time, the photos came out amazing.  When I look at them, I smile instead of cringing.  And when I showed them to J, for a minute he was totally speechless.

This time, it really was the best idea ever.

Here are a few of my favorites…

Photo credit: Juliati Photography


Photo Credit: Juliati Photography


And when I saw these wings, I just knew I had to bring out my inner supermodel…

Photo Credit: Juliati Photography

I really have to thank Julia at Juliati Photography.  She’s has amazing vision and she’s a genius with Photoshop!  She made this whole process easy and fun and she gave me gorgeous photos.

If you are thinking of doing a boudoir shoot of your own, I really think you should.  It was totally worth it.


  1. What’s most amazing about these photos is I see the Shana that I know and love peering out from each one. No you generally don’t walk around with wings or in garters, but she was able to instruct your towards sexy without losing your personality and THAT is the gift of a very talented photographer. She has shown you a slightly different, yet equally awesome, version of yourself. I love all of these!

  2. Watch out there now, hot stuff. These pictures are gorgeous. You look beautiful and super confident. Work it, guuuuurl.

  3. Awe you look really pretty. I’m really happy that you went back for a second try to get what you wanted.

  4. Very nice! I love that J was speechless when he saw them :)

  5. I agree with Ally – you actually look like you’re having fun. There is a light in your eyes and your smiles seem genuinely happy.
    And you boobs look great too!

  6. You look fantastic, Shana!!!! I agree with everyone else, you look completely in love with yourself, which is a GREAT thing! You really look *happy*!

  7. HOLY CRAP YOU LOOK FANTASTIC!!! The thing I like best about them is you look super sexy and not like a slutty porn star. You look like you – beautiful and confident. I’ve always thought the whole concept of boudoir photos was really weird. Why would I want a picture of myself in my underwear? But these are awesome – I totally see the value. You should be a VS model real women are way more beautiful. XO

  8. You look amazing!!! Well done girl. I’m glad you gave it a second shot, every woman deserves to feel this great about herself and look this great in photos!!! I would be over the moon with these. Your comfort level totally shows in your eyes in these portraits. The right photographer makes a huge deal in comfort and it always shows in the pictures!! Thank you for sharing!

  9. So beautiful, Shana! You just made me want to do the same! YAY for you, sweet friend!

  10. SHANA!!!!!! OMG, hot momma…. you look GORGEOUS!!!! I think the first one is my favorite. Your smile is just so natural and you look completely confident and very sexy. But they’re all beautiful. I’m so glad this photographer turned the experience around for you. Working with someone who makes you feel comfortable in front of the camera is so incredibly important.

    YAY for you!!!! XOXO

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