A little advice…

Dear 16-year-old me,

Sweetie, I know you think you know everything…but I’m here to tell you that you don’t know shit.  You may get good grades, but when it comes to life, you are pretty much an idiot.  Luckily, I’m here to help…so sit down and shut up and take some notes.

You know how your mother is always telling you not to make your friends so important because in a few years you won’t even remember their names and you just roll your eyes because you are all best friends FOREVER and she just doesn’t understand this very deep sort of friendship?  Well…you should listen to her, because she’s right.  You will have amazing friends that will be your best friends forever…but you don’t know anything of them yet.  And the friends you have now…you won’t know them in 20 years.

Also…stop rolling your eyes at your mother…and talking back…and silently thinking she’s a pain in the ass for making you follow her rules.  Show her a little respect…because you are not easy and she’s way more patient with you than you deserve.  She made those rules for your own good…because God knows what kind of trouble you’d get yourself into if she hadn’t.  You should appreciate the fact that she cares enough to be involved in your life.  Someday you will understand that you were lucky and not everyone was as lucky as you.

Don’t get so down on yourself because boys in high school consider you a friend and want to date your friends instead.  There’s nothing wrong with you.  You are smart and funny and pretty…despite that awful spiral perm.  Yes…you were slightly awkward freshman year, but you came into your own eventually and boys will notice.  I really wish I could talk you out of dating Bill (what are you thinking with that one???) but my hands are tied on that one.  It will get better by college, I promise.

Speaking of college, having such a serious relationship with someone who goes to school in a different state is probably not the smartest idea, but at least you’ll learn something from that relationship…and you will end it before it’s too late.  And for the love of God…get your ass out of bed and go to class more often.  You won’t think so at the time, but those horrendous grades from freshman year will follow you around for the rest of your life.  I guess, though, that will just be another lesson you’ll have to learn the hard way.

Some day you will meet a man who is a great deal older than you and you will love with him.  Some people won’t approve, but you shouldn’t listen to them.  He’s good for you and you will learn a lot from him.  He’ll give you an appreciation for the finer things and he’ll help to open your world.  He’ll also teach you one of the most important lessons you’ll ever learn and that is this…you think you know yourself, but you don’t.  The person will be at 27 will not be the same person you are at 22.  Give yourself some time to figure out who you are.

You are going to get older…it’s inevitable.  Stop being in such a rush to get there.  Relax and enjoy the age you are.  Everything else will come in time…but if you don’t stop and enjoy right now, you are going to miss it.  When you are staring down 40, you will regret rushing through your 20s.

Floss your teeth more often.  Take a break from straightening your hair once in a while.  Go to the gym at least a few times a week.  Sleep more often.  And for God’s sake…stop smoking.  You don’t really like it anyway and it doesn’t make you look cool.  Your lungs will thank you.

Most importantly…be happy.  Be happy every single day.  Life is very short…don’t waste your time being miserable.  Find joy in even the worst situation and find a way to smile always.

That’s what I’ve learned…and I hope it helps.






  1. Sounds like you had the same issue in high school as I did… and middle school. All the dudes wanted to be my BFF and they wanted to date MY BFF. SO annoying!

    Excellent advice. I love this concept. I know my 16 year old ass needed a good kick that’s for sure! :)

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