Free Your Mind Monday…

Do you ever feel like the universe is trying to tell you something?  I feel like this week’s free your mind questions are coming to me at the perfect time.  Like the universe is sending me little reminders that the decisions I’ve been making lately are the right ones and I should stick with the current course.  Or maybe it’s just a coincidence…

31.  At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?

Not too long ago, I realized that almost every decision I made was based on what was going to make other people happy.  What I wanted and needed was a distant second to what everyone around me wanted and needed and my decisions were very much influenced by what other people would think about them.  It was making me miserable…so one day I decided that I’d had enough…that I no longer cared what anyone thought…that I was going to make my own happiness my top priority.

Just making the decision made me feel better than I have in years.  But when I actually started doing things for myself it was amazing.  In the past few weeks, I’ve felt better…happier…more alive.  And you know what?  Everyone around me is just fine too.  No one’s world ended when I made this decision.  No one got mad at me.  In fact, I think a happier me is making for happier people around me also.

32. If not now, when?

That’s a great question.  There is no time like the present, right?  I’ve spent a lot of time waiting for things and I’ve learned that there is never a good time…for changing jobs, for buying a house, for having a baby.  There is always a reason to wait.  Then a week passes…a month…a year…and before you know it, a decade has gone by and you’ve done nothing but wait.  Don’t do it.  Don’t wait.  There’s nothing to wait for.  Live your life now…while it’s happening.  If you don’t…you might wait too long and then you’ll regret it forever.

33.  If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?

Sometimes there is a lot to lose.  One of the earlier questions asked whether it was worse to fail than it was to never try.  While I think it’s worse to never try and I think it’s important to have goals…I also think that sometimes there is a lot at stake and you should always consider your options really carefully when making a decision.  Being reckless is dangerous.  Thinking things out and considering all the possibilities is smart.  You should follow your dreams…but you should be smart about it.

34.  Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?

No…I’m a talker.  I’m not good at being quiet.  I’m not good at communicating without words.  I wish I could have that with someone…but I can never manage to keep my mouth shut long enough.

35.  Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?

This is a very complex question and I don’t think there is a simple answer to it.  I think there are lots of reasons wars happen in the name of religion…although I think the biggest reason is because people use religion as an excuse to further their own personal agendas.  The true message of most religions seems to have gotten twisted along the way and there are too many people shouting “Believe what I believe…or suffer the consequences!!!”  I don’t think that’s what it should be about.  I think you should be able to do what you want and believe what you want…as long as you don’t hurt anyone else.  And you should never hide behind God to further your own interests.

Comments

  1. I think I’m going to write “If not now, when?” on a bunch of post-it’s and stick them everywhere. You’re right in that there is always going to be an excuse to wait, we need to stop making excuses and just get things done!

    I’m not a talker. I can sit in silence and be totally comfortable. There are only a few people in my life that are comfortable sitting in that silence with me, and when they do it’s amazing. To have no pressure to come up with something to say is wonderful.

  2. I think this is such a perfectly timed list of questions. It’s totally a nudge…to help you see life right now as it is. I couldn’t agree more…when I’m taking care of me, making me happy, it makes everyone else happy. Otherwise, I’m just trying (usually unconsciously…but not always) to drag everyone down with me and that makes for very tense friends and family. It sounds selfish and counter-intuitive but it’s so true. Take care of me first, make me happy, and the rest will fall into line. I think people with children and unhappy relationships forget this and try to justify putting everyone else’s needs first in an effort to keep the peace. And the truth is, that just doesn’t work.

    What a toughie religion question. But a perfect answer!

  3. Oh, wow. I love your answer to #35. So very true. And I’m glad that the universe is behaving so favorably towards you lately.

    It’s a very rare thing, but there have been a few moments in my life when I really sink into the quiet with another person and I don’t feel obligated to fill the air with casual conversation. But there has to be a certain level of comfort there, obviously.

Speak Your Mind

*