Looking on the bright side…

I was talking to a friend over the weekend and she told me I was one of the most positive people she ever met.  Now…I don’t know if that’s true, but I do try to look on the bright side of things.  When something bad happens that I have no control over, I feel like I have to make the best of the situation…because it’s going to happen no matter what I do.  Why not focus on the positives instead of the negatives?

It’s a struggle…believe me.  I wasn’t born with such a positive attitude.  It was definitely learned…mostly from my grandmother.

My grandmother, Clara, was quite a woman.  She had MS for most of her adult life and it progressively got worse over the years until she was partially paralyzed and had to use a wheelchair to get around.  She lost a lot of her eyesight, most of her hearing and a good part of her memory.  She had a lot of struggles over the years…but she never complained.  Ever.  I don’t think I ever heard her say a negative or unhappy word.  Well…except that time that her roommate in the nursing home “borrowed” a few dollars from her and didn’t pay her back…but mostly she’d just smile and say “What can I do?  There’s no use in complaining about it”.  She found joy in the things she could and she never dwelled on what she couldn’t do.

It was a really good lesson to have growing up.  That attitude has served me well and it’s made it easier to get through some difficult situations.  When life really sucks, I try to just smile and make the best of it…and eventually it sucks just a little bit less.  And whenever people ask me how I can stay so positive, I just tell them about my grandmother.

My grandmother passed away last night.  She will be missed very much…but I will make sure that I remember what she taught me and I will always look on the bright side of things.  Because what else can I do???



  1. I just love this. <3

    Prayers going out to your family suffering this loss, but celebrations going up for a woman with an attitude we all strive to adopt!

    Happy Valentine's Day!

  2. I’m so sorry for your loss.

    These memories you have of her are precious, though–thank you for sharing them.

  3. She sounds like a wonderful person and this makes me want to remember to be more positive (something I’m continually working on).

  4. Awww, hunny… I’m so very sorry. I just lost my grandfather recently, too, and while I know there’s nothing I can say to soften the blow I am glad to see you are holding on to the beautiful memories you shared together. Your grandmother sounds like a remarkable woman.

    Am thinking of you. XOXO

  5. This is so sweet – what a great memory and lesson to keep of your Grandmother. I’m so sorry to hear of your loss but touched that you’re already able to focus on the love you shared and the lessons she taught you.

    Thinking of you

  6. She sounds like an incredible person who made an impact on your life. Thinking about you and your family during this difficult time.

  7. Shana I’m so sorry for your family’s loss she seems like she was an amazing person. If you can take her lessons in life she will live on forever in your heart. oxox

  8. nancy maimone says:

    love it – the lessons in life that we have all learned from this remarkable woman are unbelievable. we are truly blessed to have had her in our lives. love you shana and my family, love aunt nancy

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