Free Your Mind Monday…

I’ve mentioned before that it was taking me a long time to answer the 50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind.  Well, for the past two weeks I didn’t understand why it had been taking so long.  I flew through questions 1 -10.  Then I sat down last night to answer 11 -15 and I suddenly remembered.  The questions get harder as they go along and now we are in a place where the answers aren’t coming to me so easily. 

But I’m determined to keep going.  So here are my answers to 11 – 15…

11.  You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?

This happened to me once at work.  I was with several people, most of whom were my superiors, and they started saying bad things about someone else that I was friends with.  What they were saying was not entirely inaccurate, but I felt they were being unnecessarily mean about it.  I listened to everything they said and when they were finished I explained that I was actually friends with the person they were discussing and I would appreciate if they would not speak about her like that in front of me.  I also told them that they didn’t have their facts entirely straight.    Then I warned my friend that she couldn’t trust the people she thought she could.

Looking back, I wish I’d done more.  But I was young and it was a relatively new job and I was intimidated by the fact that these were my superiors.  I’d like to think that if I were put in the same situation today, I would take additional steps or do something more to defend my friend. 

12.  If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?

Find your happiness and never let it go.  Life is too short to be unhappy all the time.

13.  Would you break the law to save a loved one?

That would depend on what laws were being broken and whether or not helping my loved one would hurt anyone else.  I would absolutely not do something that was going to hurt anyone else.  I believe Kallay said it best when she said “there’s loyalty and then there’s stupidity”. 

14.  Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?

Yes.  I see it all the time now.  When I was younger, anything that I saw that was slightly different I thought was just insane.  Now that I’m older (and less superficial) I can see the deeper meaning behind things.  There are things I dismissed in high school and college as crazy nonsense, that I’ve revisited in my adulthood and recognized as brilliant creativity.  The lesson I learned from this is to never judge a book by it’s cover…or by the slight eccentricities of its author. 

15.  What’s something you know you do differently than most people?

I would love to think that I’m all unique and completely unlike everyone else…but the reality is that I’m a lot like most everyone else.  I don’t have a special talent or ability that makes me stand out.  I guess if I had to choose one thing I’d say that I’m pretty creative and I don’t think everyone is.


Wow…those were a little more difficult.  I didn’t think I’d be able to get them all answered.  Now that I did, I’m really looking forward to next week’s questions.



  1. I can hike in flip flops!
    That is my special talent.
    I know…you’re jealous.

  2. I really should have done these on Saturday. It would have been a nice release. I’m loving answering the questions though. I’m learning a lot about myself.

  3. #11 I think for being in the situation you were in [a professional one] you handled it very well. You stated your opinion, your stance on the issue and that this person was your friend and asked that this type of discussion not happen around you anymore. You then discussed it with your friend. I think given the circumstances and it being a place of work and your superiors I think you did a great job. Had it been personal and or social then you could have laid into them more than you were able to at work. You kept it appropriate even when they didn’t and that says a lot.

  4. I love your answers! I think you did the right thing in defending your friend to the best of your ability. It’s a hard position to be in, but I think you handled yourself very well.

    Also love the advice you’d give to a newborn. Definitely a lesson that needs to be repeated later on in life, too.

Speak Your Mind