J and I have very different tastes when it comes to decorating. It wasn’t really a problem when we bought the NY house, because we just sort of merged all the furniture we already had in our apartments into the house and were done with it. Nothing really matched or went well together, but we didn’t care. It was all comfortable and that’s what mattered to us.
When it came time to decorate the CT house, I wanted to make sure we did a good job. I wanted the furniture to match and for the house to have a really nice, put-together look. I was worried that J and I would never agree on anything and that we’d live in a mostly empty house for a long time. Luckily, we were able to agree on a lot and the house is basically furnished. We are only down to small items…like wall art and rugs.
And that is where we are running into trouble.
J, bless his little heart, is trying to help in the decorating process. He goes online and sends me images of rugs that he thinks “will go nicely in the living room” or “work well in the dining room”. It would be really adorable…except J has no taste. And he’s cheap. So the things he picks out…are ugly. UGLY.
I’ll give you an example. In the living room, we have a tan couch and a leopard print chair. The accent tables are dark brown wood from Pottery Barn. It’s all fairly contemporary. We are going to put a piano in that room as well. He finds a rug that is cream-colored with pastel flowers all over it. He tells me that this is the perfect rug for the living room. Where??? How??? Are you serious? Pastel flowers and leopard print? Um…no.
I want him to stop helping. I will find and purchase lovely rugs that will match the rest of the decor nicely. I will find complementary wall art and other accents and in a few weeks the house will look fantastic. It might cost a little more, but it will be worth it and he’ll love it in the end. But he refuses to just let me do it. He’s driving me crazy!
I’m not sure what to do…short of taking a day off and going on a mad spending spree and getting everything we need in one day while J is at work. Do any of you have this problem…a man who wants to help decorate, but has no taste? How do you handle it?